Q:I've got strong feelings for a close friend but they're primarily physical and she's rather religious - and even if I can get past that I'm worried about backlash from other close friends who don't like her... but I'm strongly considering pursuing her anyway.
Eeeeh, if you’re going into it with different expectations than she is… That seems like a recipe for shitty situations for everyone. If your feelings are primarily physical, be up front about it from the start, and be aware that you’re basically risking a close friendship with her for something that seems risky even before you’ve even started anything.
Q:I think I love a certain guy from Canada.
As long as you aren’t in love with a guy from Canada in general, because it’s a pretty big country, and it’d be difficult to date all of them at once.
Q:Probably not a secret as much as a confession: I wish there was a polite way to respond to emails with just "Cool" or "Read" without making the person request a read receipt. I fucking hate responding to things like, "Thanks for buying my product!" but I'm so tired of people being offended that I don't respond. Like, what do I say, "You're welcome for my money now please stop sending me pointless emails"?
Just reply to them with things like “Confirmed. Agent will contact you after target is contained in black site. Have second half of payment delivered within 12 hours.”
Then, when they write back, just reply “Delete previous message. Do not speak of this to anyone, or you will be relocated to a black site. We are watching.”
Q:Secret: Even though I cut off contact with my mother almost a year ago due to the fact that she's never going to change her ways (which are Not Good Behavior), a small part of me still wants to call her and apologize for cutting her off and just have her tell me how proud she is. (Possible tw? I don't know if it counts.)
Yeah, that urge to want someone’s approval is just insidiously dangerous sometimes. Especially in those situations where you’ve wanted it for so long, but you know better than anyone how much of a lost cause that is, I’m sure.
Do what you need to do to take care of yourself. I know it’s not nearly the same, but I’m proud of you for doing that.
Q:I fear that my wife is losing her sexual drive and it frightens me that it might drive a rift between us. We love each other a great deal and there is no doubt that we are still affectionate with each other but it still lingers in the back of my mind that I am unattractive to her and that it isn't just a change in her sex drive or a side effect of her medication. I worry about it far too much when I know I shouldn't.
Okay, no gif here. But I’ll say this: medication can fuck with a sex drive. Seriously. I’m going through that right now, and it is a bitch and a half sometimes, it’s really terrible.
But whatever’s going on? It’s not something you’ve done. It’s something that’s changing in her head, and it’s not about you, it’s likely about how her brain is processing things. It can be really hard to keep that in mind, I know, but just keep telling yourself.
And talk to your wife about this. Being a couple is much easier to navigate if you’ve got someone to bounce ideas off of, and there’s a chance she’s just as worried about what’s going on with her sex drive as you are.
Q:re: speaking Spanish, eating tacos: Some anon was going around and saying "please don't speak Spanish and eat tacos/other Mexican foods because appropriation!" It read like the same BS that anti-SJ blogs use when they're deliberately missing the point when people bring up valid concerns, so I'm 99% sure it's a troll, but OFC the anti SJ blogs picked it up and ran with it.
For fuck’s sake, Tumblr.
I don’t know what’s worse, the trolls or the idiots who buy into the trolls because it’s convenient for whatever viewpoint they’re pushing.
Q:-gives you a little heart candy, what does it say?-
Q:Hey there! I was wondering if you maybe knew what that gif with the mechs was from? It looks really cool :)
I’m not 100% positive, but it looks like one of the Mechwarrior games.
Q:-sends you a flower-
Aw, thanks, anon, that’s sweet.
Q:RE the post about scarjo making jeremy renner feel old: the first movie i remember seeing in theaters was pocahontas.
Look here, anon, if you want to make me feel old, you’ll have to get in line behind all the other people who are already making an effort at it. There’s a protocol to this, dammit.
Q:How many times have you worn corsets just to make your boobs look amazing?
Q:Agree or disagree: The vast majority of problems in America stem from the fact that the government is chaotic-neutral but bills itself as neutral-good.
Disagree on a few points- first, I’d say the government depicts itself in a range from Neutral Good to Lawful Neutral, but is a lot more Lawful Evil in its actions at times. Second, there’s a lot of problems in America that have absolutely nothing to do with the government.
Q:For some reason I really enjoy listening to you swear.
Y’know, that’s not the first time I’ve heard that.
Q:Personally, I don't get hung up on the lack of nudity; I'm outraged by the false advertising on the nerdery front. I came into this expecting more discussions about whether or not neutrinos have mass and if the Hodge conjecture is solvable in our current technological state, dammit!
Q:Confession: I sometimes feel like I'm not even human. At emotional events or points in my life, I find it almost impossible to cry (even if people around me are). However, it's when I'm alone and everyone else is asleep that I want to cry the most, and that scares me.
I know that feeling, anon. The way I get it, it’s like I recognize the emotional input I’m taking in from the scene around me, and I know what I should be processing that into, but… I just can’t. I don’t know if it’s because there’s other people around or there’s just something in my brain that gets overwhelmed and shuts down in moments like that, but I completely understand. And then it just comes crashing down later, in waves over things both colossal and so minor that it shouldn’t even matter. It’s frustrating and kind of scary to deal with.
I don’t know if I have anything useful I can tell you, anon, except for this- you’re not alone in it. And the time when you feel like you’re not human, know that you are, more than anything. Because I don’t know that there’s anything quite as human as uncertainty. As a species, we don’t have the answers, and everyone deals with things in their own way. If you don’t cry when people are around, there’s nothing wrong with that. Some people just feel more comfortable reacting to things privately, or it takes them time to process what they’re feeling.
As long you aren’t hurting anyone, nobody gets to tell you how you handle emotional times in your life. It’s just a matter of finding what feels right for you.