Q:of course fake geek girls exist. of course they do. any fucking porn star dressed in a superhero costume at a convention is a fucking fake geek girl. Tanya fucking Tate. Erica fucking Campbell. Katie fucking Banks. Rachel fucking Roxxx. Tiffany fucking Teen. ALL FUCKING FAKE FUCKING GEEK GIRLS.
Man, someone’s pretty pissed off. Must have been schooled at trivia by some squirrels or something.
Let’s be honest, anon. I don’t know if any of them are geeks. Maybe they are. Maybe they aren’t. I doubt you really know them well enough to know what their real life hobbies are. But THAT’S NOT WHAT THE FUCKING FAKE GEEK GIRL BULLSHIT IS ABOUT, ASSHOLE. It’s about girls who are told that their interests aren’t valid, and that they’re only faking it to be popular. And that kind of gatekeeping bullshit is just pathetic as fuck. The depth of someone else’s interests has no actual impact on your life, unless you go out of your way to feel tortured and slighted by it. So just let people live their lives.
(Also, the porn stars you talk about? It’s a fucking job for them. And nearly everyone has had to hold a job where they’ve expressed enthusiasm for things they don’t care about. I mean, I worked in a department store once, and I’ll tell you the truth- I didn’t give a shit about what brand of socks you buy, but my manager certainly wanted me to give you a spiel to sell you on Gold Toe Socks, and by god, as long as he was giving me a paycheck, I was gonna tell you how great they were. And are you out there vetting all the actors who play super heroes to make sure they meet your nerd cred requirements? Actually, you probably are, and that’s just as fucking sad.)
And, really, dude, Erica Campbell retired from porn six years ago, I was kinda sad when it happened, but I figured whatever made her happy with her life was good. So are you still holding a fucking grudge years later because she dressed up as Wonder Woman years ago? Let it go, dude. Move on. Keeping this grudge makes it sound like you have some sincere issues on the topic that could benefit from talking to a professional.
Q:What do you do for a living?
I run a cult. I mean, I call it a church, but let’s be real here, we know what’s going on.
Q:you are so cute
Q:I just wanted to say that you piss me off. I reached a point where I got tired of hearing about feminism all the time. I mean, I'm a nice guy. I always try to be kind and courteous to women. I don't need to be bombarded with all of these things that other guys do because I'm not them. Oh, except for that thing. I've done that before. Oh, and that other thing too. You're pissing me off, but it's because I'm learning things about myself that need to change. Keep bombarding - it's sinking in.
It’s a long journey, man, but recognizing we have to make it is a huge part of it. Keep at it, and I’m glad it’s doing some good.
Q:thank you for changing the porn post and for not trying to deny the problems with the porn industry. I apologize for name calling. I have a lot more respect for you right now.
Hey, no problem. I mean, the original post was sort of born out of frustrations I have with the porn industry in general, but it took place in a situation where a lot of context like that is understood as being implied, so if I’m going to put the same thought out in a vacuum, like Tumblr, I should be more explicit about what I’m going for.
Q:notice how porn made without coercion/rape of the actresses wasn't on that list. really says something about your priorities with you spank material you fucking pig.
I’m sorry, I honestly thought that would have been implied, given my general attitude towards that sort of thing. Post corrected.
Q:You asked for an anonymous opinion of you. Here goes. About half of what you post annoys the hell out of me. I can't stand "shipping" in general, but your frequent posts smushing Hawkeye and Black Widow together in utterly pointless petty ways is especially annoying; most of the posts could feature any two people, the shipping is more in love with the sound of its own voice than anything that really has to do with the characters.
I mean really, Tumblr is where people will ship inanimate objects, websites, or caricatures, but you’re complaining about me shipping two characters who have an actual romantic past in the comics?
It’s a good thing you haven’t read most of the fanfic I’ve written.
Q:non-sugarcoated opinion: you're pretty cool, but I have to roll my eyes every time you or any other white dude gets smug about his beard or calls himself "evil"
I wouldn’t say I’m smug about my beard, but I spent most of a few decades pretty much hating what I looked like, so I’m not really going to apologize for the fact that there’s something I appreciate about it now.
Q:A huge secret I have been keeping for awhile is that I think I am mentally ill. I already suffer from depression, but there are also times when I get very, violently angry. I pretty much blank out and while the anger is over pretty quickly, I usually end up having broken things and hurt my boyfriend. Last night, I cut him in two different places with keys and there was blood everywhere and I don't really remember doing it and it scares both of us and I feel like he is too good to put up with me.
Anon, you need to go to a professional about this. It’s important. That sounds like it could be extremely dangerous, For you and your boyfriend.
I know getting care for it can be expensive and difficult, but this is important. I don’t know where you live, but check with your local health department- a lot of them have mental health departments that might help. So please look into it.
I know that feeling of thinking that your mental illness means you aren’t good enough for your partner. And if he’s sticking with you through problems like this, it seems like he really cares for you. So, please, get help. To thank him for his caring and to help protect both of you from what could happen with this.
Q:Some old people are pretty awesome
Damn right we are.
I mean “they”. Damn right they are. Yeah…
Q:I am scared. Scared of never amounting to anything. Of never living up to the "potential" I've been told I have. Scared I'm going to fuck up my whole life because of this one girl who I can NEVER have a relationship with, as it would ruin so many others in my life. Scared that I'm going to wake up in twenty years and have absolutely nothing to show for my life. And scared that I'm going to be alone, until the very end.
I know that feeling, anon. Seriously, it’s pretty terrifying.
But don’t worry about what anyone says about your potential. Potential is about what other people want from you. It’s such a shitty thing for them to say. When I was younger, I had so many people tell me I had so much potential, which is basically just like telling a kid “Hey, here’s a bunch of pressure on you, and when you stumble, because everyone does, you’re going to feel like shit about it. Congratulations!” Fuck telling people they have potential.
Sorry, that turned into a bit of a rant. But I mean it. It’s fucking stupid and people talking about potential of others is just about wanting someone to fulfill their dreams. And no one else’s dreams should matter when it comes to your life. It’s about what you want, and it may not end up being the things you thought you wanted in high school or college or even now. The world is going to surprise you, and you’ll build things that matter to you, whether it’s friendships or art or a business or just skills you find rewarding. Find what makes you feel fulfilled, and you’ll find more peace in your life.
As for relationships… Well, yeah, that can suck. But I think there’s a point where you have to consider something- if you’re really hung up on this girl that you’re having problems finding another relationship, is it really worth it to keep her around in your life? Or is keeping her around just further tormenting you with the fact you can’t be with her? If the relationships you’d lose by dating her are more important to you than being with her, there’s no shame in cutting her loose from your life. At some point, you need to realize that you’re getting more harm to yourself by keeping her as a friend than you’d be getting from not having her around at all.
I don’t know. It’s really hard to get someone out of your life like that. But sometimes it’s really fucking necessary. You gotta do what’s good for you, man, and a high concentration of pain in the short term can sometimes be better than a lower dose of it for a really long time.
This whole answer was kind of a downer, so here’s some puppies to end it on a better note.
Q:Secret: I have internet crushes on both you and your wife. You're both awesome and cute to boot.
Q:I would get back with my ex, if only to stop feeling so bloody lonely.
Which, I mean, I’m sure you know. But exes are usually exes for a reason, and loneliness is never a good reason to get into a relationship.
Q:For your anon worried about marital relations: I'm a newly-wed who has been losing my drive for a while myself. We have 2 kids now (don't know about anon) and I feel my body and social life and mental capacity suffering every day. My libido has been almost nil lately, and I feel horrible about it. It might be her meds, it might be that she's feeling trapped or "old" or even useless. The ONLY way to figure it out is to talk to her. Be the husband mine isn't.
This is important. And I’m so sorry, anon. I wish there was something I could say that would help.
Q:I've got strong feelings for a close friend but they're primarily physical and she's rather religious - and even if I can get past that I'm worried about backlash from other close friends who don't like her... but I'm strongly considering pursuing her anyway.
Eeeeh, if you’re going into it with different expectations than she is… That seems like a recipe for shitty situations for everyone. If your feelings are primarily physical, be up front about it from the start, and be aware that you’re basically risking a close friendship with her for something that seems risky even before you’ve even started anything.