i confess that from the things that make up your tumblr, i think your an awesome person. i think if i knew you i would get happy just seeing you or even thinking about you. the fact that you can be so passionate about the things you are passionate about.
I haven't had sex with my partner for over a year. It's not that I don't love him. I'm still attracted to him, but my sex drive has become nonexistent. I don't know if it's depression, which I take medication for, or hormonal. I know I haven't been depressed for over a year. It comes and goes. I feel horribly guilty about all of this. He says it's okay and he understands and oddly it hasn't affected our relationship, the love and commitment is still there, but I feel like I'm cheating him.
It might be your medication. I know that a fair number of antidepressants suppress the libido.
And you’re not cheating your partner. Your partner cares about you, that’s what’s important to them. If he understands and is okay with it, I don’t think you need to give yourself extra guilt over that.
Your partner sounds very supportive, which is fantastic (and I just want to tell him and give him a hug for that) so I’d say it’s important to keep talking about how you’re feeling. Both so he knows how you’re feeling and you know how he’s feeling.
i dont understand people who have an appreciation for the dalish/city elves’ pain, suffering, and sense of loss in the dragon age games but dont understand why black folk be so mad at white people bullshit.
i see so much of my experience as a Black american in the elves and it infuriating to me when people have empathy for pixels and not for living breathing people
“Instead of insulting us, [Hines] could be using whatever influence he has in social media to help recruit more PoC into our circles. They need to know they’d probably be much more welcome here than they might be elsewhere. (After all, many of us would love to befriend extra terrestrials or anthromorphs.)”
Right, because people of colour are I CAN’T EVEN FINISH THIS FUCKING SENTENCE I WILL NOT GIVE THIS PERSON THE BENEFIT OF ANY DOUBT
Context: Jim Hines wrote this post titled “SF/F Convention Harassment Starter Kit.”
There’s a listserv somewhere called SMOFlist. This is a place where people with experience of running cons hang out.
Someone on that list — who sees absolutely no problem comparing PoC to ALIEN SPECIES — felt insulted by Jim’s post.
thereturnofsmofslit appears to be anonymously documenting snippets from that conversation.
My rage organ is going brittle with overuse so I’m just going to keep writing essays on Doctor Who.
LET’S SET EVERYTHING ON FIRE FOREVER.
EXCEPT THE CATS.
THE CATS CAN STAY.
Things not to burn:
1) Us 2) The cats 3) Nikki’s Sailor Moon collection she gets grumpy
EVERYTHING ELSE BURNS FOREVER
As someone who has a “people are awful, we need to burn everything” conversation at least once a week, I would like to volunteer my crew to assist you.
This is just fucking disgusting. Really, people? The idea of PoC being interested in fandom is like aliens to you?
I was talking to my brother about women’s attitudes towards their bodies, especially regarding weight/fat, and when he said “most guys don’t notice/care about that kind of thing,” I tried to explain why it was a lot more complicated than that. I ended up telling this story.
Body image is something that’s so hard to talk about, and it’s hard to express body positivity without sounding cheesy, false, or overly simplistic. But I’m gonna try. This is only my own experience, and it didn’t magically cure me of all my body image issues - but it was a major turning point for me nonetheless.
Native Americans have commented on the bitter irony of these plastic shamans profiting from the degrading, twisted versions of Native American rituals while many indigenous people still live below the poverty level. New Age interest in Native American cultures appears more concerned with exoticized images and romanticized rituals revolving around a distorted view of Native American spirituality than with the indigenous peoples themselves and the very real (and often ugly) socio-economic and political problems they face as colonized peoples.
Plastic Shamans and Astroturf Sun Dances: New Age Commercialization of Native American Spirituality, by Lisa Aldred
i think the best feeling is when you make someone that you like a lot laugh and their face lights up and they start giggling and you’re really happy that you were able to make someone so beautiful smile so much